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Goals – 3 Steps to Moving Past Failure

Anthony — Mon, 14 Feb 2011 03:19:34 +0000

By Anthony D Carter

When we miss hitting our goals our first tendency is to stop and fret over the failure that we experienced. Even though that is a common reaction it does not have to be a lasting condition. Here are three keys to moving beyond the paralyzing effects of failure.

1 – Get over it. You tried and failed. It is no big deal. Everyone fails from time to time. The best hitters in baseball also strike out the most. The best prolific quarterbacks have some of the highest interception numbers as well. Michael Jordan once said, “I have missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I have lost almost 300 games. On 26 occasions I have been entrusted to take the game winning shot… and missed. And I have failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.”

2 – Get up. The only time failure is permanent is when you quit. When you refuse to ever try again you sentence yourself to being a failure for the rest of your life. If you have missed your goal reset it and go after it again. Take the lessons that you learned and use them to improve your approach. When you learn from your failures you actually get stronger. In order to eventually experience success you simply need to get up one more time than you got knocked down.

3 – Get Going. Don’t allow the negatives associated with the failure grow in stature within your mind. Be anxious to give it a another try. Take action using the lessons that you learned from previous failures. Get going again so that you can put that new-found experience to good use. Use this knowledge to hit your goals faster.

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Motivation Tips – The Five Most Common Initiative Killing Mistakes That Drain Your Motivation Levels

Anthony — Tue, 17 Aug 2010 21:59:15 +0000

By Anthony D Carter

Waiting. Waiting until the perfect time is a big motivation killer. If you continue to wait until the perfect time you will be disappointed because it will never come. Opportunities will continue to pass you by. Eventually you will give up on your dream and goals altogether.

Solution: There is no perfect time in the future to start. The time to start is right now. Get going even if you are not sure what to do. You can adjust along the way. Once you began opportunities will began to become apparent to you.

Influence. The negative influences of other people will kill your enthusiasm, belief and initiative. If you allow it, negative people will talk you out of pursuing your dream. If seems the very people who have never really accomplished anything themselves are the ones who are the most vocal with reasons why you cannot accomplish your goals.

Solution: Do not share your aspirations with everyone. People should earn your trust. If they have supported you in the past then they qualify. You want to get encouragement support and honest feedback. So, always give careful consideration to who you share your plans with. When you have the right people in your corner you will be motivated to accomplish lofty objectives.

Fear. Fear of failure leads to inaction and hesitation. When you allow fear to gain a foothold in your decision making process you will severely limit your chances for success. We are not motivated when we are too nervous to try.

Solution: Even when you feel the fear take action anyway. You will find that the more you take action despite fear then the easier it will be to overcome fear. Each time you fight through fear it will lose it’s power over you.

Comfort Zone. Your insistence on remaining in your comfort zone destroys your initiative and drive. Your comfort zone is a deceptive killer of dreams. While doing what comes easy on a daily basis, you are allowing your aspirations to fade away into distant memories. Over time your dreams will cease to be important to you. You will lose your desire for them in favor of staying comfortable.

Solution: Stretch yourself. Widen your comfort zone. Do activities and task which force you to get better. As you improve your skills you will improve your results. As you get more and more of the desired results that you want then the stronger your motivation will be to continue to stretch yourself. You will come to realize that the rewards lie on the outside of your comfort zone.

Weak Motives. Weak motives yield weak and inconsistent results. If you do not truly desire what you are working to have then will discover that you cannot maintain steady motivation. You will start, slow down and then stop. You will not be able to pay the price to hit the goal that you have set for yourself. Weak motives lead to quitting.

Solution: Always set goals that matter greatly to you. You gain high degrees of motivation from your strong desire for outcomes that are important to you. The size of your dream determines the level of your motivation. Be sure that your reason is worth the sacrifice and work that you will have to put out in order to obtain what you want. When your motive is strong then your motivation is high.

Turn Failure Into Success

Anthony — Mon, 28 Jun 2010 17:48:02 +0000

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Success begins with your state of mind. If you have failed before then you have the ability to succeed. It is just a matter of using those failures in a positive way.

Your failures should be used as a foundation for your eventual success. The worst thing you can do is look at your setbacks as permanent situations that you find yourself in.

That is the most common reason that people usually become failures. They look at their temporary situation as hopeless and they quit.

The moment that you decide to give up on your dreams because of the difficulty involved in acquiring them then you have truly failed. If you never allow this to become your fate then you will eventually win.

Learn from every mistake and try not to make the same mistake twice. Use your failures. Bounce back by asking better questions. Ask them of yourself and seek out experts who have broken through the barriers that are stopping you.

Use every failure as a form of feedback. The information that you receive is not negative or positive. It is just data. It is feedback that you can use in order to improve your results. Simply retool your approach based upon your feedback.

With every failure that you experience you can actually grow if you use it in this way. Improve upon your previous results by examining the feedback that you receive from those attempts.

Do not let the struggle frustrate you to the point of giving up. Take a short break if you have to. Recharge your batteries and start again. Also, read biographies of people who have succeeded in spite of tremendous odds. This will put your disappointments in the proper prospective. You will come to realize that your situation is not unique. You will also see that in the whole scheme of things the obstacles that you face are not so big after all.

Turn Frustration Into Motivation in 3 Simple Steps

Frustration is another roadblock that hinders our success from time to time. Being frustrated over current conditions can sap all of your energy and initiative. It doesn’t have to be that way. There is a way to get over frustration and become more energized. Here are three steps for changing frustration into motivation.

Examine Your Current Situation. Frustration stems from a general feeling of helplessness. It seems as if no matter what you do you end up back at square one with the same problems facing you. Your first step to changing that feeling is to look at what you don’t like about your situation right now. List those unwanted conditions.

Explore Solutions. After listing the unwanted conditions in your life ask yourself this question: How can you change them? Just list general ideas. Don’t hold anything back. One of the best ways to finding out what you do want is in figuring out what you don’t want. You did that in the first step. Now it should be easier to look at the other side of that coin and come up with ideal conditions. Do not worry about how you are going to change things yet. You will learn that in the next step. For now focus all of you thoughts and emotions on what you would like to do, be, or have at this time in your life.

Get Specialized Knowledge. Now seek out specific answers. Find the best route to take in order to go from where you are right now to where you want to be. Use specialized knowledge resources. Search Google, visit public libraries, browse in book stores and read magazines. Once you begin exploring options available to you it will improve your mood as well as your outlook. You will be motivated to take this new road towards living a more fulfilled life rather than accepting the status quo of frustration and disappointment within your current situation.

Setting Goals – Is it Really Important for Succeeding?

Anthony — Sat, 05 Jun 2010 03:56:42 +0000

By Anthony D Carter

Setting goals is difficult task at times. Some of us struggle with them. It might mean giving up some things that we might feel we aren’t just yet ready to give up. It might mean that we have to step up to the plate more. Whatever it requires, some people find goal setting as a task that must be conquered. Yet, maybe you don’t know all the advantages associated with goal setting. So, here are a few that are just for you.

Sense Of Pride

One of those things is that as you accomplish your goals, you get a sense of pride. You have done great things. You have made it this far. That is something that you have wanted to do and you can see yourself going somewhere. You can then tell yourself to keep up the good work. Now, how do you like that?

Accomplishment

Then there is the fact that each goal means that you have accomplished something. We set milestones when we set goals. These might be things that if we tried to conquer them as a whole, we might not have any luck at all. When that’s the case, you will find that goal setting takes away some of that frustration we might feel as we try to do something.

For some of us, it’s the motivation that we need. We have been wanting to do something, but we just don’t know how to do it. When we break the job down then we can see what needs to be done and we can see how long we feel it might take us. Then the task at hand doesn’t look too big.

Hope and Dreams

Last of all, setting goals gives us something to look forward to. It gives us something to aim for. Many of us live a mundane life, we get bored too easy. Yet, when we do something in terms of goals, we feel that we are doing something constructive. That is something that we need to feel in life.

So, as you can see, goal setting has it’s purpose. Just as we look for a purpose in anything we do, this too has a purpose as well. So, see what goal setting can do for you. You might be able to get much accomplished.

Some Approaches Which Help You Hit Your Goals

After you set your goals you have already done a major part of what it takes for successful accomplishment of them. The next phase is implementation of your plan and staying motivated. Here are 3 keys to of making sure you hit your goals.

Establish a Routine

Find a way to do what needs to be done on a regular basis. Develop good work habits. When you are consistent in your approach to hitting your goals you establish a regiment that protects you from indecision and hesitancy.

It also takes away the tendency to rationalize reasons for stopping or slowing down. A good routine will help you apply consistent work towards your goal over extended periods of time. This approach all but guarantees your eventual success.
Revisit Your Goal

Take time to reflect on what your goal means to you. Revisit the purpose for your goal on a regular basis. As you impress the reasons for your goal onto your mind you strengthen your resolve for achieving it. You fortify yourself with a strong desire to hit your goal because you have a clear understanding of what it’s accomplishment means to you.

Persistence

You must press on in the face of tremendous opposition. Hitting your goal requires that you overcome struggles. You will face hurdles and challenges throughout your journey.

But no matter how many times you fail you must regroup and press on again. Your goal demands a price and you will have to pay that price in order to get what you what. Perseverance is the biggest price you’ll pay along the way. Keep pushing forward because the achievement of your goal is worth the price.

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Feeling Stuck? 3 Steps to Successfully Breaking Through Inertia

Anthony — Mon, 31 May 2010 02:17:19 +0000

By Anthony D Carter

Being stuck in a rut is not fun. As a matter of fact it can be down right miserable and frustrating. You come to point where you hate where you are, but no matter what you do you seem to wind up right back where you started.

Here are three steps to take in order to get out of that rut and get on with your life.

1- Understand that you are where you are either because of inaction or because you continue take the wrong action. Your current results come from the effects of your past actions. In order to successfully change your results you must change your actions.

Look at your live and decide which area you most want to change. It could be your relationship, your career, your physical conditioning or your financial situation.

2- Once you identify the most important area then decide on what is the most important action that you need to change your current situation for the better. Be sure you don’t fool yourself. You want o make the most effective change, not the most convenient one. Use the old “yank the band aide off” analogy. When removing a band aide you want to yank it off rather than peeling it off slowly and prolonging the pain. Take the most important step and do it as soon as possible.

3-Repeat the process. Build up momentum with repeated actions towards changing one area of your life then move on to the others in order of importance.

Do this over and over again and within six months to a year you barely recognize the person staring back at you in the mirror. The changes will be dramatic and you will feel more fulfilled as a result. You will be in the active mode of changing in a positive manner on a consistent basis.

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Failure Can Help You Succeed

Anthony — Sun, 16 May 2010 06:22:03 +0000

By Anthony D Carter

Don’t let failure stop you. There is a wealth of opportunity to gained from failed attempts at achieving a goal. When you attempt to do something go at it with all of your might. Give it your best effort and you will win just by doing so.

I know you are probably thinking to yourself, “I’ve already done that before and I did not succeed at hitting my goal. I did not get what I wanted.” To that I respond, you may not have accomplished your goal, but if you gave it your all then you did indeed win. The benefits of your efforts have not revealed themselves yet.

So often the thing that we are striving to be do or have does not come to us on our first try. We may have some growing to do in other areas of our life first before we are capable of receiving what we are after. Or we may learn skills pursuing this present goal which end up later helping us in future endeavors.

There was a time in my life when I was very shy. I joined a multilevel business opportunity. Because I did not have many friends to show the opportunity to my business mentor advised me to get good at making new friends. That meant I had to learn how to walk up to people that I had never met, start a conversation with them, establish rapport and get their name and telephone number. As you can imagine I was petrified.

In addition to that I was expected to stand up in front of an audience of hundreds of fellow team members and tell them what I was doing. The only thing that I feared worse than talking to another person was standing up front speaking before a whole crowd of people.

But my desire to win was stronger than my fear of people. I begin striking up conversations with complete strangers. I did this day in and day out. Sometimes they gave me weird looks. Often I faced insult and I rejection. I failed many times.

After awhile though, I got better at it. I started to succeed. It became easier and more natural to me.

And when it came time to stand before audiences to speak about my journey I did not fear doing so. I told them what I had learned from my many failures. Many people in the audience would later come up to me to and tell me that my story was exactly what they needed to hear in order to inspire them to achieve success in their own lives.

Each time it happened that really made me feel good. I was so happy to learn that someone else benefited from what I talked about. By overcoming my struggles and sharing the insight that I gleaned in the process I was able to make a positive difference in other peoples lives.

My failure became the foundation to my success. That is the reason why earlier I stressed the importance of giving it your all. When you give your all to the task at hand then you grow. Although that growth may not be apparent in your present endeavor, the skills that you acquire will most definitely be used somewhere else in your journey.

Try to always put forth your best effort even in the little things. Everything counts. In the whole scheme of things the way you do anything is the way you end up doing everything. Strive to be good at what you do. Even though you may not be proficient in the beginning, still strive to be good at it.

Also, master the fundamentals. Learn what they are and do them repeatedly to gain the necessary skills for mastery.

I love watching and learning from people who have mastered their craft. It is such a pleasure to watch an expert or professional in action. I guess that is why I love sports so much. These guys and gals practice on a regular basis. They sacrifice in order to do what it takes to be the best in their sport. They dedicate themselves to continual improvement. That is something that we can learn and apply to our lives when it comes to working towards accomplishing our goals.

Immerse yourself in the subject that you are interested in becoming successful at. Don’t just stick your big toe in the water. Instead jump in and go all out. Read everything that you can learn about it. Study people who are already good at what you want to do. Success leaves clues. Associate with people who are striving to hit the same goals that you are.

Be aware that you can do all of the things that I mentioned and still experience failure from time to time. When you repeatedly fail you will feel like quitting. You will think, “Oh what is the use even trying anymore.” But do not succumb to these thoughts. Get back up and hit it again. Just because you failed that does not make you a failure. The only way you can become a failure is if you quit.

Michael Jordan, the greatest athlete that I have ever watched once said, “I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.”

He became the most recognized athlete on the planet, and yet no one knows him for his failures. He is famous because of his phenomenal success. Some of his achievements include:

Six-time NBA champion
NBA Most valuable Player Award 5 times
10-time All-NBA First Team
Rookie of the Year
Two-time Olympic gold medalist
One of 50 Greatest Players in NBA History

All of this from a person who experienced so much failure.

A winner never quits. Failure becomes the foundation for a successful person’s eventual triumph.

Keep your failures in the proper perspective and do not let them keep you down. Give it your all and you will grow. Eventually you will get good. In the process you will gain valuable skills that can be used in other undertakings.

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